btw he is 35 and i am 16 year old junior he isnt married and doesnt have a family although he is divorced and everyone loves him but me im the only person in the school who hates him and everyone knows it including him but he flirts with me and does stuff like i said before what should i do or am i overreacting also whenever he asks me to stay after classs he doesnt leave the door open and he turns the lights off but its still semi bright because the sun comes streaming in throught the window but please tell me if im overreacting or what to do nervous something else might happen soon because he keeps escalating what hes doing but i dont change the way i act towards him
also this teacher never does any of this tuff with other people is he just trying to get me to like him si dont hate him or is it because he wants it to lead to more and go from touching to kissing to having sex i dont know am i blowing it out of proportion…. also when he is rubbing my shoulders and moving my chin and brushing my face my mood completely changes toward him and i really like him and i want him to keep going and continue and go further but as soon as i leave his classroom after school its as if i can't believe he did that and i can't believe i let him do that and thats why i just turn to hating him so fast and during class i hate him its just like after school and when he rubs my shoulders brushes my cheeks and face and rubs my back and when he holds and moves my chin……..im so confused i need help!!!!!!!!!
If i am going to end me staying after class i don't know how to do it i always do and im afraid hell get mad anf flunk me or do something worse if i go and tell him i can't stay what if he tries to do anything then i dont know if im going to feel like i want to stay when he rubs my shoulders and stuff like that because when he does that all i want to do is stay there and be there with him should i just never stay after school or tellhim if i tell him what if he tries to do something to me??? Still so worried!!!!Should i have someone comewith me when i go like one of my larger gut friends or my best girls friend just can't think clear headedly about this!!!! need your help……..
Suggestion:
If this is a legitimate question then you really need to wake up and knock some sense into yourself. You clearly are not comfortable with his actions, therefore it's up to you to do something about it. You're old enough to brush him off when he's touching you and leave the room. Or not stay behind in the first place unless you know that it's for an actual reason which will benefit your education.
You need to go and speak to someone and tell them what's going on. Whether it's the school councillor, a mentor or just a senior member of staff or one you feel comfortable with. It's best to tell a female member of staff though, especially since the accusation is against a male member.
Don't be worried, what's happening is breaching the student-teacher relationship and the child protection training which he should have done. Closing the door when you stay behind should not be allowed even if it's something personal he wants to speak to you about. Turning of the lights is also inappropriate. Touching a student is not allowed, especially the physical contact you mentioned he has with your face.
Take a friend with you to tell a member of staff, and you'll then probably have to write a statement of what happens.
Before you report his behaviour though, just make sure you're defiantly not over analysing the situation. Your 'hatred' of this teacher should not cloud your judgements and make actions seem worse than they are. If you think you can solve the problem by moving classes, or not staying behind then do that. You could always ask a friend to stay behind with you.
As soon as an allegation like this goes forward he'll probably be suspended from teaching or you'll be moved from his class. Also have in mind that it's your word against him, and if it's widely known that you don't like him, then it may seem like your making false allegations.
Good luck with whatever you do.
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